When I was younger, I thought love was all about feelings. The butterflies, the excitement, the romance. And while those things are beautiful, they’re not what true love is built on. Over the years, I’ve learned that love is more about choice than emotion.
Marriage taught me that love isn’t always easy. There were days when the feelings weren’t strong, but the commitment had to be. True love means choosing patience when you’re frustrated, kindness when you’re hurt, and forgiveness when you’re wronged. It means showing up every day, even when it’s hard.
I didn’t fully understand this until my marriage ended. The pain of divorce opened my eyes to what love really is, and what it isn’t. Love isn’t selfish or conditional. It’s not about getting what you want; it’s about giving selflessly, just as Christ gave for us.
Now, as I navigate singleness again, I’m approaching love differently. I’m not looking for someone who just makes me feel good; I’m looking for someone who is willing to choose love daily… through the good and the bad. And I want to be that kind of person, too.
The ultimate example of love is Jesus. His love wasn’t based on feelings; it was a choice. He chose to leave heaven, to serve, to sacrifice, and to forgive. His love wasn’t easy, but it was perfect.
If you’re in a relationship, I encourage you to ask yourself: Are you choosing love, even when it’s hard? And if you’re single, take this time to prepare your heart to love like Jesus. True love isn’t about finding the right person; it’s about becoming the right person.
Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank You for showing me what true love looks like through Jesus. Help me to love others with patience, kindness, and selflessness. Whether I’m in a relationship or preparing for one, guide me to love as You do. I give You all honor, all the glory, and all the praise. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray. Amen & Amen.