If I’m honest, forgiveness didn’t come easily after my divorce. I prayed for reconciliation for months, holding onto hope even when things seemed impossible. But when my ex-wife married someone else so soon after the divorce, I felt the weight of betrayal all over again. The anger, hurt, and confusion were overwhelming, and I didn’t know how to let go.
One night, I was reading Matthew 18, where Peter asks Jesus how many times we should forgive someone. Jesus’ answer, “not seven times, but seventy-seven times”, hit me hard. I realized I was putting limits on forgiveness, trying to justify my pain instead of surrendering it to God.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It doesn’t mean the hurt instantly disappears. But it does mean releasing the other person from the debt they owe you and trusting God to heal the wounds.
I’ve learned that forgiveness is as much about obedience as it is about freedom. The more I held onto bitterness, the more it consumed me. But when I began to truly forgive, I felt the weight lift. It wasn’t a one-time decision… it was a daily surrender, asking God to soften my heart and fill me with His grace.
Now, when my daughter comes to me upset about something, I try to model that same forgiveness. I remind her that holding onto anger only hurts us in the end. Together, we pray for those who hurt us, trusting God to work in ways we can’t see.
Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank You for the forgiveness You freely give through Jesus. Help me to extend that same grace to others, even when it’s hard. Heal my heart and teach me to trust You with the pain. I give You all honor, all the glory, and all the praise. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray. Amen & Amen.