Forgiveness. It’s one of the hardest things God asks of us, yet it’s also one of the most freeing. I’ll be honest, this is a lesson I’ve had to learn repeatedly, especially after the hurt I’ve experienced over the past few years.
When my ex-wife left, I felt a deep sense of betrayal. The wounds from our divorce weren’t just emotional; they were spiritual, too. I wrestled with God, asking Him how I was supposed to forgive someone who had shattered the vows we made before Him. It felt impossible.
But then I remembered Jesus’ words: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34). Even as He hung on the cross, betrayed and abandoned, Jesus chose forgiveness. If He could forgive in the face of such pain, how could I hold on to my bitterness?
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing what happened or pretending the hurt doesn’t exist. It’s about releasing the weight of resentment so it doesn’t consume you. I realized that my anger wasn’t hurting my ex-wife, it was hurting me. I was the one carrying the burden, and it was keeping me from experiencing the fullness of God’s peace.
It wasn’t easy, and it didn’t happen overnight. Forgiveness is a process, one that requires prayer and surrender. I had to bring my pain to God daily, asking Him to soften my heart and give me the strength to let go. Over time, He replaced my bitterness with compassion.
Forgiving my ex-wife doesn’t mean I approve of her choices, but it does mean I’m free. I can look at her now without the heaviness of anger or resentment. And more importantly, I can focus on being the father kiddo needs, without the distraction of unresolved hurt.
If you’re struggling to forgive someone, I encourage you to take it to God. It’s okay to admit it’s hard, He already knows. But as you release the pain to Him, He’ll help you heal. Forgiveness doesn’t change the past, but it transforms your future.
Prayer
Heavenly Father, forgiveness is hard, but I know You’ve called me to let go of resentment and bitterness. Help me to forgive as You’ve forgiven me. Soften my heart and give me the strength to release the pain I’m holding on to. Thank You for the freedom that comes from living in Your grace. I give You all honor, all the glory, and all the praise. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray. Amen & Amen.