One of the hardest decisions I made during my separation and divorce was staying silent. There were moments I wanted to defend myself, to share my side of the story. But I chose not to.
I stayed silent for several reasons. First, I wanted to leave the door open for reconciliation. If my ex-wife decided to come back before she remarried, it would be easier if fewer people knew the details. Second, I’d seen how the situation affected our kids and didn’t want to add to their pain by making it a public matter. The Bible warns us about causing little ones to stumble (Matthew 18:6), and I wanted to protect them as much as I could. Finally, it was a deeply private matter… one I felt didn’t need to be shared with everyone.
Staying silent wasn’t easy. I had to surrender my desire for justice and trust that God saw everything. Romans 12:18 challenged me to live at peace as far as it depended on me, and sometimes, that meant biting my tongue and letting God fight my battles.
Looking back, I see how God honored that decision. Staying silent allowed me to focus on healing, protecting my children, and walking in integrity. It wasn’t weakness… it was obedience.
If you’re facing a situation where silence feels like surrender, remember this: Choosing peace is not giving up. It’s giving it to God and trusting Him to bring justice in His way and His time.
Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank You for teaching me the value of silence and trust. Help me to choose peace, even when it’s hard, and to trust You with the things I can’t control. I give You all honor, all the glory, and all the praise. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray. Amen & Amen.